Your son may express anger physically due to difficulty managing emotions. To help without triggering him, stay calm, listen without judgment, set clear but gentle boundaries, encourage healthy outlets like sports or art, and consider professional support like therapy to teach him coping skills. If you have any further questions or need more clarity, please consult with a psychiatrist. If youre in Texas, we welcome you to reach out to www.MidCitiesPsychiatry, were here to help you.

It sounds like what you are experiencing with him is exhausting and can be unsafe at times. Your son needs to remember that his thoughts are causing his anger and relieving them this way is a short term solution. Unfortunately, their may be no way to prevent you from provoking him. To effectively have a relationship with him without triggering him may be an unrealistic ask. Your own self care and awareness is really important in these circumstances with him. Maybe you could recognize some physical signs within him or changes in that shared space together before his anger becomes unmanageable? You need to be intentional about developing a plan for yourself to create preventable solutions to not get caught in his crossfires. It may be helpful to take deep breaths before responding, reframe your situation with or without him to gain perspective and practice communication skills to set boundaries for yourself with him. When you are experiencing his anger remember underneath that emotion there are many other vulnerable things or difficulties with other emotions that are going on here. His triggers are highly individualized, could change through time and picking up on his patterns are important to your own mental wellness with him. Allowing him to have that space for self reflection on his thoughts and feelings without distractions are some ways to help him inform you of your levels of engagement together. Desensitizing himself to negative intrusive thoughts, not listening to that critical inner voice or redirecting him to supportive resources for preventions are important. Validating his anger but also taking care of yourself is just as effective in supporting your son too. Surround yourselves with a relaxed environment and consider family counseling as an option together.

I would discuss this with your primary care provider and/or his pediatrician and most importantly his psychiatrist (if he doesn’t have one, he needs one). Depending on his age, he could be in the beginning of a schizophreniform or a schizophrenic type of disease. And it’s treatable early without problems. That is my recommendation and suggestion. I wish you well and safety of the upmost importance. Sometimes a little bad needs to happen for something good to occur. And bad is not intended for you to be hurt, if he gets put away for his behavior activities and actions, he would be screened appropriately, he will be tested appropriately, and then be put into the appropriate type of program. Pending drugs, psychiatric, alcohol, or both, I meant all three.
Thank you for requesting my opinion suggestion and recommendation, I wish you and your son nothing but health and happiness.

Be well,

Brent Reinheimer, MD

Hi, I would seek a psychology evaluation.

There are a lot of potential reasons for this acting out behavior. This could be from his inability to regulate other emotions, such as anxiety, or his possible exposure to outbursts through family or social circles.

It is best not to try and process his behavior while he is escalated. Give him space and approach him when he is calmer to discuss any other feelings that might be hiding behind the anger.

Therapy is a great tool to help adolescents learn how to express themselves in a more healthy way, so I would recommend seeking out local mental health providers or organizations in your area.

Check this link out for some insight into your question:
https://www.peacefulparent.com/aggression/